Divorces are sometimes a necessary part of life that allows us to move forward in our lives. While much good can come from this new chapter, it can also do considerable emotional damage to the children in the divorce. Thankfully, with some proactive behavior, you can protect your children throughout the divorce.
Divorces are complicated and time-consuming. There is a lot that a spouse needs to do if they want to protect their best interests. It can be easy for emotions to get involved in a divorce, which can result in children getting hurt along the way. If both parents choose to abide by these simple rules, they can help their children get through this difficult time with minimal trauma.
Do not badmouth the other parent
Children often see each of their parents as a part of themselves. When a child hears that one of their parents is bad in some way, they feel that issue is also a reflection of themselves. No matter what opinion you may have of an ex-spouse, do not insult them in front of your children.
Talk to your kids about the divorce
Divorces are confusing, especially for young children. Even if you have never implied it, children often assume that the divorce is their fault. Talk to your children about the divorce, and answer their questions. Ensure that they understand that it is not their fault, so they do not harbor guilt or shame for years to come.
Lead by example
Children see how their parents treat one another. You may think that not being actively aggressive is acceptable, but even short responses and giving your spouse the “cold-shoulder” leaves an impression on children. Children recognize this behavior and may begin to think it is acceptable to treat their parents and others with the same kind of attitude.
Stay involved with your children
It can seem like it is easiest for you to entirely step out of the family life and leave the parenting to your other spouse. Children need both of their parents to raise them. Any absence from a parent can lead to many types of emotional trauma, like abandonment issues.
Children are incredibly vulnerable to divorces. The action parents take to protect them can help determine how they grow into adults, so make sure that you are looking out for their best interests throughout the divorce.
