This time of year is filled with fun and excitement for many families. Though it can be stressful for many people, for divorced parents, it can mean a great deal of heartache. Some struggle to deal with their new normal as they try to work out how to handle co-parenting during the holidays.
Fortunately for families here in Georgia and across the country, experts have advice for anyone in this scenario. If you are one of those people, read on for tips and helpful ideas on dealing with the holidays after a divorce. It doesn’t have to be an unhappy time as long as you keep certain things in mind and take action where needed.
How to handle your kids
First, children are the most important component of this entire matter. If you keep your kids’ needs front and center, it will be much easier to determine what to do. Make sure they are involved in and informed of exactly what is going to happen each day.
If you’re missing old traditions that you all used to do before the divorce, consider getting the kids’ help in creating new ones. Don’t worry so much about having a perfect holiday. Instead, stay as positive as you can and try to keep calm in order to give your kids a fun winter season.
How to handle your ex
If it is at all possible, talk to your ex-spouse about how both of you want to handle the holidays. Doing so before the season gets going can help avoid problems before they happen. Though it may be tempting to take your kids out of state, doing so without your ex’s knowledge can easily have negative consequences for everyone down the road. If you do so, be sure your ex can contact you if needed and have his or her consent in writing.
If you’re worried about your child’s well-being because you have genuine concerns about your ex’s extended family, the best thing to do is speak with your attorney before the holidays get underway. The most important thing is that children are safe. Spending time with potentially problematic family members is not.
How to handle yourself
One of the most helpful things you can do is look over your divorce agreement. Be sure that you understand exactly what holiday schedule is already established. This way, you can determine exactly where you may need to be flexible in the best interests of your children.
Lastly, be sure to treat yourself with the same care and understanding that you would do for your children. If you aren’t ready to have a holiday that directly involves you interacting with your ex-spouse and his or her family, that’s alright. Though your kids are your priority, it is okay to give yourself time to move on. If you still have questions about the holidays and your divorce agreement, getting the advice of a legal professional is always an option.
